Holiday Self – Esteem
The fastest and surest way to increase self-esteem is to commit estimable acts.
For others and then for yourself. (This has nothing to do with taking care of yourself first for survival. This is about helping others first as you go out in your day and then treating yourself.)
Jimmy Carter is 94. His wife is 91. They still actively build homes for people through Habitat for Humanity. He has never been concerned about building wealth, only about making a contribution since leaving the White House almost 40 years ago.
Happiness is precious. Happiness with ourselves is priceless.
Time is never wasted when doing something that makes you feel good about yourself.
So many people are challenged with self-esteem issues – or know someone who is struggling with them.
Research shows that most people are held back by self-esteem concerns a few times throughout our lifetimes.
When we give to others, we get out of our own way enough to get a different perspective on our lives.
Acts of Giving:
These acts can be as small as talking the time to speak to an elder in a grocery line, complimenting a child, holding a door or much bigger acts with higher rewards. The bigger the act, the bigger the reward often means you will meet others who may profoundly change your life, or develop needed to skills in dealing with people or maybe making valuable contacts among others who are doing good works.
Whenever you commit an estimable act, oxytocin is immediately released and you feel good.
This encourages you to do it more often, which causes you to feel better more often. I cannot repeat this enough.
Historically, the people I have treated in the past who are the most unhappy and the most anxious are those that are doing the least for others (and I’m not talking about their significant others).
Don’t let this be you 😉
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