Emotional Intelligence (During The Holidays)
The best part of Christmas is doing a little extra something for someone. What‘s your plan?
A big part of Emotional Intelligence is being able to feel an emotion without having to act on it.
When we use anything (exercise, TV marathons, food, alcohol, gaming, shopping, drugs, isolating) to numb our emotions, we might numb the negative emotions for a bit, but we also numb the positive emotions too.
Don’t ever say you are fine when you really need to talk about it, or shout, or say stop to someone – or say: Thank you, please check on me more often.
News flash: Most of your stress comes from how you respond, not what really happened or what didn’t happen. Adjust your attitude and response to a more neutral, accurate view and watch the stress and desire to medicate it drift away. How? Sit with your feelings a moment or a few. Then put a name to what you are feeling. THAT is what you need and what you are lacking. Go get it.
My life sure isn’t perfect but I’m grateful for everyone and everything I have. Thank you to you all!
One day you will definitely look back and realize that you worried too much about things that don’t matter.
There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy. What’s one of yours?
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